Educate yourself on Postpartum Depression

Way before having kids I’ve heard of postpartum depression, I even googled it and wonder that’s strange. And after giving birth to my first, with the amount of love I felt for her I wonder how it’s even possible. Well fast forward to the second child, although my depression wasn’t as severe to what I’ve read in the recent years I knew I was going through it.

When I got back to my normal self, I guess everyone can agree the first question would perhaps be; what was the difference between the two pregnancy right?

Well I didn’t ask that question because I knew the reason for my postpartum depression had a lot to do with how different they were.

I’m not going to go into too much details, but I trust that the clarifications to the cure of postpartum depression is explanation enough.

10 ways help someone avoid or get rid of postpartum Depression.

  • Fellas: Continue to show the same love you showed before you got the girl, after you got the girl and now times it up by 10 because she’s carrying your child.
  • Friends: DO NOT exclude your friend the mother to be from activities and going out, and then rub it in her face later. Let her tell you she can’t go, instead of assuming all the time.
  •  Parents: STOP expressing to the pregnant women what she needs to DO all the time, she has an OBGYN for that.  

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  • EVERYONE: we are going through hormonal issues, expect the eye role, the attitude, we can not control it! But guess who can? YOU just show us some love and make sure you smell good. Oh, and come with plenty of money to buy us food and you Gucci! Lol
  • DO NOT NEGLECT HER:  we already feel like we are the only one going through the body changes, mean while baby daddy living the best life, we want comfort and want to know we still look good!
  • EVERYONE/ EPECIALLY PARENTS: After giving Birth DO NOT tell the mother how to raise her child, allow her to experience mother hood.
  • FELLAS: this is when we need you the most! In fact we need the love, we crave the affection, and dream about the time we can make love to you again. We yearn to see you hold your baby for the first time amazed at the little creation you took a part in making.  
  • It’s true mothers tend to put more attention on the baby after delivery, forgetting that there’s another baby needing their attention. I promise you we don’t do it on purpose. further more, We’ve been protecting this little baby in our womb for 10 months by ourselves…. we now must learn to separate the two. HELP US WITH THAT!

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  • CLOSE FRIENDS & FAMILY; even though she say she’s ok, always tell your self “she can be better and I can help with that”. Make yourself useful, show up with food, diapers, or just bring yourself for some nice conversation and quality time. In addition, Offering to watch the kids is always a plus!
  • SIGNIFICANT OTHER: we need validation, we went through a lot of changes, our body don’t look or feel the same! Meanwhile you’re still looking like a snack. Don’t leave room to make us question ourselves if we are still good enough for you. SHOW US! Date us, surprise us again (not with another baby) work as a team with out having to be told to do thing all the time. Spend quality time together, cook together, clean together and most importantly, PARENT TOGETHER.

keep her company |TEAM WORK

When its just the Mom taking care of the house and the kids, it makes her feel like she is still the one carrying the baby, protecting the baby, and there for makes it difficult to trust you with the babies when the time come. It’s hard separating time away from the kids to than spend time with you because it make her feel like she’s making time to take care of another baby.

It’s a new journey for us, doing things we’ve never done before, cleaning after little people all the time, making sure they eat, laundry, clean house, waking up early, going to bed late. Can you imagine what the single mothers went through! Only the good lord knows how much respect I have for ya’ll! Also keep in mind there’s a married woman somewhere out there going through this by herself, because there is a husband waking up everyday leaving her alone with the kids to make sure his household eat, coming home late to kiss you good night and do it all over again. (GOD BLESS MY MOM)

THE CURE:

Truth be told the cure to postpartum depression all comes down to love and happiness.

To Conclude, It was love and affection that created that seeds and it is love and happiness that will restore the women’s mind body and soul back to its original state.

As a result, that love is all around her, Family, friends and her babies.